When you’re single and working
(or not working for some) there’s not many options to meet someone on a whim…especially in the gay community. I guess my frustration lies in so many people’s inability to hold a conversation. Questions like “what’s good” are so general they can be answered in a number of ways (ice cream on peach cobbler is really good! But that really throws guys off) . I guess people want to cut to the chase and simply talk about sex (and maybe that works for some… who are hideously gorgeous) but that’s simply not the case for everyone. I know… a lot of guys are just looking for sex, and they say that on their profile. I have said other wise… repeatedly.
Don’t get me wrong I love talking about sex, but if that’s all we have in common, I’m probably not going to take my time and energy to meet. Sex is what all humans have in common. Well… maybe not asexual people… that’s another topic. With so many guys talking with the same damn style... I feel like I’m talking to the same guy with different photos. lol . It’s laughable. I’m not asking for a sermon on the meaning of life but, I would like to know if the wheels in that noggin are spinning and whether they spin on the same pace as mine.
So yeah, conversation.. is it a deal breaker for me? HELL YEAH.
What are deal breakers for you? (you see what I did there… I’m initiating a conversation…take notes)
I don’t even know why I call it online dating … might as well just call it dating. In my universe there’s not too many ways to get to know a person. My life is consumed with the internet (working in social media) and I try to go out when I have money and time, but then I want to hang out friends. Drunken bar hookups seem just so… unromantic. lol. So I’m using my tools to see how this works.. (versus my tool) . So far I’ve checked out Tinder on my phone and OkCupid. I’ve gotten more feedback and conversation on OKcupid. Maybe cause the guys in my neighborhood are not the “dating” types. But I do live smack dab in the middle of the gayborhood close to all the bars so…there you have those “drunken bar hookups” just on my phone app. Not that I don’t mind a drink or two and whatever happens-happens it’s just I would like to do something more–ya know like a stroll to Klyde Warren park or hit up White rock Lake or something. My close friend told me that I have to put the intention out there that I’m serious. So hey… can’t put it out there better than writing it down can I? I’m a hopeful romantic. I like a lot of guys, I think a lot of guys are cute, it’s just none are quite fitting with my life at this moment. I’m a generation X guy that can easily date older or younger at this moment. I like partying but I don’t want to do it all the time. I like chilling with netflix but I don’t want to be at home all the time. I just need a fine balance of the two… an active and passive relationship/lifestyle. Eh, I don’t want to overthink it.